The classic non-neurotypical seriously rubs the neurotypical---even the smart neurotypical the wrong way terribly frequently. Today I'm going to talk about one way that the typical aspie, geek, or non-neurotypical can be perceived as less annoying by most everyone else.
There is a ubiquitous habit among the non-neurotypical, and that is attempting to offer corrections, or more normally, nit-picks, when a neurotypical is speaking. This irritates the living hell out of them. So, before doing so, I recommend that you ask yourself these questions:
Are you in an adversarial mode of interaction with the speaker? Briefly said, is the speaker your enemy or do you want him to perceive you as such? If not, I suggest you continue on to the rest of my questions before blurting out a correction. Even if so, delivering pin-pricks is usually less effective than logical or rhetorical decapitation as it runs the serious risk of making you look like an ankle-biter.
Is the perceived inaccuracy actually a 'load bearing' part of his argument? Is he even actually making an argument as such? If not, just let it go. You can mention it in passing afterwards in private to him if you feel the need. Most of the time it isn't actually load bearing, and much of the time, it's not even an argument at all. If it is actually load bearing, I suggest repeating back a short paraphrase of his argument as you understand it to him before you attack it, giving him a chance to confirm or deny it. You'll find that neurotypicals as a rule aren't very precise, and sometimes the quick summary with a chance to catch his breath will let him make a face-saving self-correction,
Resisting the urge to snap at any minor inaccuracy that passes by will make the neurotypicals a lot more comfortable around you. One of the reasons is this: the average person, especially the average neurotypical, and in particular those of the Second Sigma or below has no surplus of what a computer scientist or engineer would call 'Stack Space'. When you interrupt their train of thought, effectively you're commandeering quite a bit of that space---pushing it onto their mental stack, so to speak. Salesmen frequently use this sort of technique to confuse the customer and deplete his reserves of willpower. Unless you're getting a real payoff for doing so, don't do it. Antagonizing people is rather like warfare: it should be done only deliberately to accomplish coherent objectives, not incidentally.
Carnegie would tell you to NEVER make such corrections. Recognizing the nature of my audience, I'm not going to go anywhere near that far. If I can induce you to at least consider the above before interjecting, I'll consider myself to have served you well enough.
Thursday, October 11, 2012
Tuesday, October 9, 2012
TSA Demonstrates The Compassion That The Dying Should Expect From Government Healthcare
http://shine.yahoo.com/healthy-living/dying-woman-humiliated-sea-tac-airport-security-search-203600921.html
Yes, let's demand abject submission rituals from dying leukemia patients!
Romney is a fool for not bashing the TSA mercilessly. Look at the comments on shine, which is a pretty liberal venue. The loathing for the TSA is rising.
Paraphrase that old Serbian Gentleman,
Nobody should DARE to ever humiliate you again!
Yes, let's demand abject submission rituals from dying leukemia patients!
Romney is a fool for not bashing the TSA mercilessly. Look at the comments on shine, which is a pretty liberal venue. The loathing for the TSA is rising.
Paraphrase that old Serbian Gentleman,
Nobody should DARE to ever humiliate you again!
Sunday, October 7, 2012
Reasons Why Homeschool Families Are So Much Larger Than The Mean?
Per the Ray 2009 Homeschool study, the TFR of homeschoolers is apparently likely slightly greater than 3.5.
Why is that?
You can explain some of the deltas based on homeschoolers being more religious. They're also on the average slightly richer and slightly more educated, but these things don't typically result in many more children. They're also far more likely to be married and the wife is usually a stay at home mom, although a fair number also work part-time.
My suspicion is that having a large net disadvantage in the war of indoctrination reduces the fertility of non-homeschooled families. It accomplishes this by making your children less respectful of your authority and thereby making them more annoying and burdensome. Do we have any natural experiments available on this sort of question? Do white families in areas with full-day kindergarten or preschool have a lower TFR?
Did areas where television was late in adoption (e.g. South Africa) have a slower fall in white fertility?
Or do we have to cop out and attribute the homeschool TFR nearly entirely to extra-hardcore religiosity---beyond that which can be easily captured by GSS or similar instruments?
Anecdotally, the homeschool families I know very well personally have this many children:
3*, 3*, 1, 5, 12, 4*, 4 (plus one extra adopted)
where an asterisk indicates that the family is PROBABLY finished having kids, but not a 95%+ certainty.
By the standards of homeschoolers, my wife and I, with likely our 3rd child being born next spring, have a fairly small family. This is probably attributed to the fact that I married pretty late---in my 30s, whereas most of the other homeschool families married in their 20s.
Why is that?
You can explain some of the deltas based on homeschoolers being more religious. They're also on the average slightly richer and slightly more educated, but these things don't typically result in many more children. They're also far more likely to be married and the wife is usually a stay at home mom, although a fair number also work part-time.
My suspicion is that having a large net disadvantage in the war of indoctrination reduces the fertility of non-homeschooled families. It accomplishes this by making your children less respectful of your authority and thereby making them more annoying and burdensome. Do we have any natural experiments available on this sort of question? Do white families in areas with full-day kindergarten or preschool have a lower TFR?
Did areas where television was late in adoption (e.g. South Africa) have a slower fall in white fertility?
Or do we have to cop out and attribute the homeschool TFR nearly entirely to extra-hardcore religiosity---beyond that which can be easily captured by GSS or similar instruments?
Anecdotally, the homeschool families I know very well personally have this many children:
3*, 3*, 1, 5, 12, 4*, 4 (plus one extra adopted)
where an asterisk indicates that the family is PROBABLY finished having kids, but not a 95%+ certainty.
By the standards of homeschoolers, my wife and I, with likely our 3rd child being born next spring, have a fairly small family. This is probably attributed to the fact that I married pretty late---in my 30s, whereas most of the other homeschool families married in their 20s.
Friday, October 5, 2012
Obama Takes Foodstamps...Higher and Higher
http://www.zerohedge.com/news/2012-10-05/us-foodstamp-usage-rises-new-record-high After Obama's minions release their patently ridiculous unemployment numbers, we see that food stamp recipients in the US are now at an all time high, pushing well past 46 Million. Anecdotally, my wife and her homeschool mom friends went to help out and make some food donations at one of our local Pacific Northwest food banks. They say they have been EXTREMELY busy, much more so than they have any recollection of being. Reminder to self: make sure to subtly push towards food banks and away from United Way in terms of corporate charitable giving.
Thursday, October 4, 2012
On Affirmative Action And Other Spoils
http://isteve.blogspot.com/2012/10/196-million-eligible-for-raceethnic.html?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=twitter
White people need to get over themselves and simply advocate for their own interests in a who...whom manner. Allowing things to be presented on a bogus universalist plane simply means you'll get finessed every time. Neutrality is effectively impossible, even for those of reasonably good will. Somebody WILL be favored. The only question is Who...Whom.
This nonsense about saying...we would support affirmative action but it's 'damaging to its recipients due to mismatch effects'/degrading to black people/etc is just plain disgusting. The reason to oppose it is because...drum roll...
It is contrary to the interests of non-elite white people. Period, end of story. God curse all the 'nice white ladies' that force the discourse into such a mendacious sewer and force the laundering of wholesome group and self-interest through the skirts of token minority totems like Sowell.
White people need to get over themselves and simply advocate for their own interests in a who...whom manner. Allowing things to be presented on a bogus universalist plane simply means you'll get finessed every time. Neutrality is effectively impossible, even for those of reasonably good will. Somebody WILL be favored. The only question is Who...Whom.
This nonsense about saying...we would support affirmative action but it's 'damaging to its recipients due to mismatch effects'/degrading to black people/etc is just plain disgusting. The reason to oppose it is because...drum roll...
It is contrary to the interests of non-elite white people. Period, end of story. God curse all the 'nice white ladies' that force the discourse into such a mendacious sewer and force the laundering of wholesome group and self-interest through the skirts of token minority totems like Sowell.
Wednesday, October 3, 2012
Did The Nazis Persecute Homeschoolers As Much As the Current German Regime?
http://www.hslda.org/hs/international/Germany/201210010.asp
Honestly one has to wonder. Most Western governments, it seems have adopted all the worst parts of National and International Socialism without any of the good stuff, like National Socialism's concern for demographic hegemony, or its cool parades, impressive architecture, or snazzy uniforms. When the substance is effectively the same---lots of socialized areas in the economy, lots of crony capitalism and the use of government to benefit favored businesses, and the blatant use of education as a means of political indoctrination, how is this NOT Nazi or fascist? Instead the modern preference is to use the name as an all-purpose epithet and to quietly adopt the substance.
The German Powers that Be are apparently more aware of the threat that homeschooling presents to their Nazi New World Order. Note especially the picture of the homeschool dad and his four beautiful children. Homeschoolers have a vastly higher TFR than the rest of society, especially in Germany. The future belongs to those who show up for it.
Honestly one has to wonder. Most Western governments, it seems have adopted all the worst parts of National and International Socialism without any of the good stuff, like National Socialism's concern for demographic hegemony, or its cool parades, impressive architecture, or snazzy uniforms. When the substance is effectively the same---lots of socialized areas in the economy, lots of crony capitalism and the use of government to benefit favored businesses, and the blatant use of education as a means of political indoctrination, how is this NOT Nazi or fascist? Instead the modern preference is to use the name as an all-purpose epithet and to quietly adopt the substance.
The German Powers that Be are apparently more aware of the threat that homeschooling presents to their Nazi New World Order. Note especially the picture of the homeschool dad and his four beautiful children. Homeschoolers have a vastly higher TFR than the rest of society, especially in Germany. The future belongs to those who show up for it.
Tuesday, October 2, 2012
Demonic Possession?
http://newsbusters.org/blogs/noel-sheppard/2012/10/02/michigan-professor-strips-naked-class-shouts-there-no-f-king-god#ixzz289SI2v8h%20via%20@sharethis
This story is truly bizarre---on the order of the recent 'zombie attack' stories. Are we seeing an upsurge in demonic possession or are people just freaking out over the election and the whole '2012' thing?
This story is truly bizarre---on the order of the recent 'zombie attack' stories. Are we seeing an upsurge in demonic possession or are people just freaking out over the election and the whole '2012' thing?
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)
