The question has been asked, in comments and other channels---what can I do, as a non-neurotypical, to raise my status? Typically this question is asked in the context of the sexual and marriage marketplaces, although it's a relevant question in nearly any sphere involving human relationships.
I've posted quite a bit on this topic, and I'll expand some of my remarks here. As a special consideration to the non-neurotypical reader, I'll focus most heavily today on those things that are amenable to quantification. One thing I've noticed is that non-neurotypicals without good emulation capability are particularly frustrated whenever given advice that begins with the word 'just'..as in 'just do x' or 'just be y'. I try to avoid that when I write, but a lot of what I've written has been about intangibles, largely because that's where the biggest return on investment generally lies. But today, let's talk tangibles.
One obviously has to recognize that each individual person will have a different 'schedule of improvement' on various attributes and capabilities. Some people, for instance, will find it decidedly easy to improve their raw physical strength but will find physical grace nearly impossible to achieve to any great degree. As always, you'll have to play the cards dealt you. You may never rival Conan, but it's likely that you could be stronger.
Physical strength, or the appearance thereof, feeds into status. The nice thing about strength if you're not neurotypical is that it is quantifiable. You'll also probably find that you'll make extremely rapid gains for 3 months or so before you start advancing on a much slower curve (people that do this a lot call those 'newbie gains'). There is some evidence also that lifting weights regularly may raise your testosterone levels, which is also associated with improving your status. From experience, let me tell you that people view you in a different frame when you're 6'3 and 160 pounds or so with an average person's strength vs the same height and about 200 pounds with approximately twice that level of strength. Another thing you'll notice is that human beings have as extreme a variance on strength as they do on intelligence---for instance, men at the Olympic class in lifting are frequently 5-6x as strong as the average Joe. What should you shoot for? My suggestion is to grab those 'newbie gains', and allocate enough maintainence efforts to maintain them. This is likely not your primary capability but it can be a decent secondary. Some useful benchmarks---being able to pick up, toss, carry, etc any woman light enough to be attractive to you, this is attractive to a lot of women, even really smart ones, on a primal level. Being able to military press your own body weight (or bench 1.5 times that) is considered excellent, and it's probably right around the point of diminishing returns unless you're a footbal player or something---Tim Tebow is, if memory serves, about 1.5 to 2x that strong. I've noticed that an awful lot of things peak in terms of the status improvement that they give you in women's eyes right around 2 sigmas from the mean (i.e. right around the top 2%). I'm not sure why that is so. But again, Mr. Non-Neurotypical, this is purely quantifiable. You can even crack out Excel and start running regression analysis if that's your thing. Basic familiarity with the gym will also help you talk with people outside your 2 sigma range of interaction, by providing you with metaphors and sometimes useful contacts.
The next suggestion is very tangible, but not as quantifiable. Learn to dance. I suggest couples dances with a fair degree of structure---you're a non-neurotypical, the structure works with your limitations, you'll be more comfortable with less structured variants once you have more familiarity in general. Lots of the Latin dances are good and Swing isn't bad either. But learn to dance. Lots of girls really like to dance---this is one I regret not expending more energy on when I was younger, despite having all the grace of a battleship. But if your build is such that the first item has a poor schedule of improvement, you can get quite a bit of mileage here.
Learn to play an instrument, preferably a highly portable one. The best bang for the buck has got to be the guitar---you can work either classical or electric depending on your bent. Even bad garage band quality will earn you a fair number of points. I should have gone here rather than to the piano.
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